Have you ever found yourself explaining a decision to someone, only to realize that no matter how much you explained, they still didn't agree with you? So you explained it again. Maybe you changed your wording, provided more examples, or tried another approach. Eventually, you either became frustrated or began [...]
Preface A Mirror, a Map, and a Challenge Dear Reader, I didn’t set out to write a book. I set out to help people change their lives. For decades, I’ve had a front-row seat to human potential, working with athletes chasing championships, executives leading global companies, and individuals simply [...]
I’ve failed a ton more times than I will ever achieve. That’s not false humility. That’s just the math. But you know what… anything that is redeeming about me came out of those failures—not from boasting or bragging or making excuses. And that distinction matters more than most people realize. [...]
For over a decade, I have ended the year writing a blog about the pitfalls of New Year’s resolutions. I have offered suggestions for ways to improve your chances of having success if you make them, and talked about the mechanics of why I prefer goals to resolutions. This year, I decided to attack them from another angle, turning your desires or resolutions into “Stress Goals.” [...]
Several years ago, on Thanksgiving Day, I wrote about the relative ease of giving thanks and how most people routinely express their gratitude for something each year on Thanksgiving Day. As a result, my focus was on the importance of being thankful and expressing your gratitude on the other 364 [...]
I used to think that being liked was the ultimate validation. I said “yes” to almost everything. I was constantly drained and eventually realized that I was losing sight of who I was in the process. With the help of some mentors and through a lot of trial and error, [...]
I get paid to help teams and businesses evaluate people they consider adding to their teams. Part of the process is pretty straightforward: mental tests, interviews, etc. Other parts are more unexpected and seemingly unimportant to the prospective additions to the team, but these are often where true colors come [...]
Some of the most potent tools in mental performance don’t shout. They don’t sparkle. They don’t come wrapped in complex theories or shiny buzzwords. But they work if you’re willing to try them. One of those tools is a question that’s just five words long [...]
In nearly every graduation speech or career pep talk, one familiar piece of advice is repeated like gospel: “Follow your passion.” It sounds inspiring—almost magical—but in reality, this seemingly inspirational advice is widely misunderstood and frequently backfires. [...]
It’s funny how three letters (Y-E-T) can change how we see the world. Yet is a simple word, often overlooked, but its impact on your mindset is profound. I’ve seen it firsthand in my work with athletes, executives, and people from all walks of life [...]