• The Power of Doing What You Don't Want to Do (1)
    Published On: July 30, 2026|

    One of the biggest misconceptions about success is that high performers somehow enjoy every part of the process. They don’t. The difference is that they have learned that feelings lead to terrible decisions. Think about how we treat children. If a toddler decided every meal, the menu would probably consist [...]

  • The Ability to Think For Yourself
    Published On: July 4, 2026|

    One of the most underrated skills in life is the ability to think for yourself. Not because it’s rare to have opinions. Everyone has opinions. What’s rare is having the discipline to hold onto your own judgment when people around you disagree, criticize, pressure, manipulate, or attempt to influence you. [...]

  • Published On: April 30, 2025|

    If you’re an athlete or a driven professional, you already know that performance doesn’t just happen on the court, in the gym, or at the office; it starts the night before. While hustle culture praises late nights and early mornings, real success lies in recovery. And few things fuel recovery [...]

  • Published On: January 21, 2025|

      What Sam Darnold and his agent do next will be an excellent indicator of Sam’s current headspace. If he accepts the highest paying offer that he receives vs. taking an offer that affords him the best opportunity, it will suggest his self-confidence has not recovered. As a mental performance [...]

  • Published On: October 31, 2024|

    In sports, success often boils down to more than skill alone—it’s the mind that dictates the outcome when pressure is high, especially in pivotal moments. The recent Yankees game, with its infamous fifth-inning meltdown, offered a powerful reminder of one of the fundamental truths I believe in deeply: you can’t [...]

  • Published On: February 27, 2024|

    One often overlooked aspect of peak performance is how you make decisions. Whenever you consciously make a decision that takes longer than an instant, you are NOT performing at your peak. In short, if you are thinking you are guaranteed to be underperforming. This is why we practice. We know [...]

  • Published On: October 31, 2023|

    If you read my previous blog, ‘One of the Most Prevalent Misconceptions Among Athletes,’ you likely now realize that the belief that anger fuels improved performance is a misperception in your brain. The improved performance comes from the increased focus the anger creates in you, but the anger actually drains [...]

  • Published On: September 29, 2023|

    Most people experience an uptick in their performance when they become angry. I’d be rich if I had a dollar for every athlete who has not just told me but exclaimed that they play better when angry. I will be the first to admit there is some truth to this… [...]

  • Published On: May 31, 2022|

    Most people are more concerned with expressing their feelings than they are with taking control of them. As a result, they tend to use inflammatory language, that unintentionally, causes them to feel more anxiety than is necessary. Just changing the words you use – especially in your internal dialog – [...]

  • Published On: March 30, 2022|

    With the Final Four Men’s and Women’s collegiate basketball championship starting this weekend I decided to share something I wrote for one of my clients to share with his team before their game. I often tell my clients that the difference between winners and losers is that losers wait for [...]

  • Published On: May 19, 2021|

    Most people erroneously think that perfection will allow them to achieve their goals. I call perfectionism ‘the curse of the above average.’ At lower levels of learning, striving for perfection can provide some benefits, but once you reach a reasonable level of competence, it begins to reduce rather than enhance [...]