“You can’t guilt a rule.” – Sam Obitz   Life throws us a mix of opportunities and challenges; navigating it all can often feel overwhelming. As someone who’s spent years advising people on mental performance and personal development, I’ve learned that one of the most effective tools for managing both [...]

Several years ago, on Thanksgiving Day, I wrote about the relative ease of giving thanks and how most people routinely express their gratitude for something each year on Thanksgiving Day. As a result, my focus was on the importance of being thankful and expressing your gratitude on the other 364 [...]

If you’ve ever noticed that your day was going fine, and then one slight misstep caused an avalanche of internal criticism, you’re not alone. That voice in your head that tells you you’re not doing enough, not good enough, or that you’re somehow falling behind? That voice isn’t you. It’s [...]

“When you can’t say ‘no’ you end up being expected, rather than respected.” – Sam Obitz  I used to think that being liked was the ultimate validation. I said “yes” to almost everything. I was constantly drained and eventually realized that I was losing sight of who I was in [...]

I get paid to help teams and businesses evaluate people they consider adding to their teams. Part of the process is pretty straightforward: mental tests, interviews, etc. Other parts are more unexpected and seemingly unimportant to the prospective additions to the team, but these are often where true colors come [...]

We live in a culture that idolizes speed. Faster is framed as better. We glorify productivity hacks, multitasking, and constant acceleration. We scroll like our lives depend on it. We reply, reschedule, and react with twitch-speed urgency, often without realizing we’re doing it. But here’s a quiet truth I’ve come [...]