For over a decade, I have ended the year writing a blog about the pitfalls of New Year’s resolutions. I have offered suggestions for ways to improve your chances of having success if you make them, and talked about the mechanics of why I prefer goals to resolutions. This year, I decided to attack them from another angle, turning your desires or resolutions into “Stress Goals.” [...]
If you’ve ever noticed that your day was going fine, and then one slight misstep caused an avalanche of internal criticism, you’re not alone. That voice in your head that tells you you’re not doing enough, not good enough, or that you’re somehow falling behind? That voice isn’t you. It’s [...]
I used to think that being liked was the ultimate validation. I said “yes” to almost everything. I was constantly drained and eventually realized that I was losing sight of who I was in the process. With the help of some mentors and through a lot of trial and error, [...]
I get paid to help teams and businesses evaluate people they consider adding to their teams. Part of the process is pretty straightforward: mental tests, interviews, etc. Other parts are more unexpected and seemingly unimportant to the prospective additions to the team, but these are often where true colors come [...]
We live in a culture that idolizes speed. Faster is framed as better. We glorify productivity hacks, multitasking, and constant acceleration. We scroll like our lives depend on it. We reply, reschedule, and react with twitch-speed urgency, often without realizing we’re doing it. But here’s a quiet truth I’ve come [...]
Some of the most potent tools in mental performance don’t shout. They don’t sparkle. They don’t come wrapped in complex theories or shiny buzzwords. But they work if you’re willing to try them. One of those tools is a question that’s just five words long [...]
In nearly every graduation speech or career pep talk, one familiar piece of advice is repeated like gospel: “Follow your passion.” It sounds inspiring—almost magical—but in reality, this seemingly inspirational advice is widely misunderstood and frequently backfires. [...]
If you're an athlete or a driven professional, you already know that performance doesn’t just happen on the court, in the gym, or at the office; it starts the night before. While hustle culture praises late nights and early mornings, real success lies in recovery. And few things fuel recovery [...]
These two blogs are well over a decade old but still worth reading or rereading. Although they have very different subject titles, they both focus on common mistakes people make when choosing what to focus on to get the desired results. The first one—MOST GOLFERS PLACE TOO MUCH EMPHASIS [...]
It’s funny how three letters (Y-E-T) can change how we see the world. Yet is a simple word, often overlooked, but its impact on your mindset is profound. I’ve seen it firsthand in my work with athletes, executives, and people from all walks of life [...]