"If you stop worrying about 'getting', and start building your capacity, you will be more likely to end up where you want to be." - Sam Obitz I was recently looking at the stock market. Most people were panicking because the numbers were red, but I found myself getting [...]
"You can't guilt a rule." - Sam Obitz Life throws us a mix of opportunities and challenges; navigating it all can often feel overwhelming. As someone who’s spent years advising people on mental performance and personal development, I’ve learned that one of the most effective tools for managing both [...]
For over a decade, I have ended the year writing a blog about the pitfalls of New Year’s resolutions. I have offered suggestions for ways to improve your chances of having success if you make them, and talked about the mechanics of why I prefer goals to resolutions. This year, [...]
Several years ago, on Thanksgiving Day, I wrote about the relative ease of giving thanks and how most people routinely express their gratitude for something each year on Thanksgiving Day. As a result, my focus was on the importance of being thankful and expressing your gratitude on the other 364 [...]
"Goals and standards help; expectations hurt." - Sam Obitz The World Series always exposes more than talent… it reveals mindset. And right now, the Dodgers are showing us how even the most skilled teams can get trapped by their own expectations. On paper, they’re built for dominance: a roster [...]
If you’ve ever noticed that your day was going fine, and then one slight misstep caused an avalanche of internal criticism, you’re not alone. That voice in your head that tells you you’re not doing enough, not good enough, or that you’re somehow falling behind? That voice isn’t you. It’s [...]
"When you can't say 'no' you end up being expected, rather than respected." - Sam Obitz I used to think that being liked was the ultimate validation. I said “yes” to almost everything. I was constantly drained and eventually realized that I was losing sight of who I was in [...]
I get paid to help teams and businesses evaluate people they consider adding to their teams. Part of the process is pretty straightforward: mental tests, interviews, etc. Other parts are more unexpected and seemingly unimportant to the prospective additions to the team, but these are often where true colors come [...]
We live in a culture that idolizes speed. Faster is framed as better. We glorify productivity hacks, multitasking, and constant acceleration. We scroll like our lives depend on it. We reply, reschedule, and react with twitch-speed urgency, often without realizing we’re doing it. But here’s a quiet truth I’ve come [...]
Having problems is unavoidable. Suffering is not...it's a choice - Sam Obitz Some of the most potent tools in mental performance don’t shout. They don’t sparkle. They don’t come wrapped in complex theories or shiny buzzwords. But they work if you’re willing to try them. One of those tools [...]