The Intricate Dance of Success and Happiness
“The people I know who have not lost their childlike wonder are among the most joyful to be around”
– Sam Obitz
In our relentless pursuit of success we often lose sight of happiness. I was recently reflecting on a conversation with a friend who shared his observations about his father, who had been a successful executive. As we delved into his father’s life—one marked by ambition, numerous relocations, and significant financial losses—I couldn’t help but notice how the relationship between success and happiness is more complex than it seems.
His father achieved what many would call success: he climbed the corporate ladder, earned a hefty paycheck, and lived in multiple countries. Yet, after losing much of that wealth, he seemed more content than ever. This observation raised a pivotal question: was the relentless drive for success worth the sacrifices?
The family dynamics we carry often shape our understanding of what it means to be successful, and they can warp our perception of happiness. We tend to equate success with material wealth and professional accolades, often overlooking the true essence of happiness.
This reflection became even more poignant as I considered my own life experiences. Like many, I’ve chased success—graduating, building a career, and becoming a parent. But amidst these accomplishments, I frequently ask myself whether I truly feel successful or merely accomplished.
As we age, there’s an interesting shift in perspective. My friend and I discussed how we often feel more like wiser kids than seasoned adults. Despite physically starting to show signs of aging, mentally, we still think of ourselves as if we are in our 20s. We pondered whether it was good that we both possess the same youthful curiosity and wonder that drives us to explore interests that might seem unconventional for someone in our age group—activities that our peers have long since abandoned.
I asserted that the desire to maintain a sense of playfulness and exploration is crucial. “The people I know who have not lost their childlike wonder are among the most joyful to be around.” They embrace life’s experiences, seeking joy and adding significance to others’ lives rather than merely chasing traditional markers of success. This is a reminder that while ambition can lead to financial success, it can also overshadow the simple pleasures that bring true happiness.
In our conversation, we discussed how success can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Those who focus solely on achievements often find themselves disconnected from their joy. Meanwhile, others can find fulfillment in their experiences, relationships, and even hardships. As we peel back the layers of what success truly means, we see that happiness often lies in moments of connection and understanding rather than in financial milestones.
I realize now that happiness is not a destination but a byproduct of how we navigate our lives. Success may open doors, but the relationships we build and the experiences we cherish ultimately define our happiness. As I continue my journey through life, I’m determined to strike a balance—celebrating achievements while prioritizing joy, embracing curiosity, and, above all, nurturing relationships.
So, as we grapple with our definitions of success, let’s remember to cherish those moments that make us smile. Whether sharing a laugh with friends or finding joy in unexpected places, happiness can be found in the simplest of experiences. Ultimately, it’s not about how much we’ve accomplished, but how much value we’ve added to others and the joy we’ve cultivated for ourselves and others along the way.
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